The Monkey Theory by Sfurti Sahare
Author:Sfurti Sahare [Sahare, Sfurti]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9789387894624
Publisher: Westland
Published: 2019-06-26T04:00:00+00:00
Scenario I
I was always afraid of driving on highways. Every now and then, whenever I would consciously convince myself to get into the vehicle and just drive, a peculiar voice inside my head would always utter the word ‘NO’.
Human Monkey: Sfurti, let’s go for a drive!
P-Monkey: Do you have to go today? You’ve been so busy for the last few days. Why don’t you just chill?
Human Monkey: You’ve been ‘just chilling’ all morning. You’ve had your rest. Why not do something now?
Even as I would be torn between ‘just chilling’ and ‘doing something’, a new character would then suddenly enter the conversation.
Fear Monkey (suddenly making an appearance): No, don’t go … it’s too frightening!
Human Monkey: Sfurti, take your vehicle and go to Mumbai.
Fear Monkey: No, it’s too dangerous, look at the highway. What if you fall into a ditch and get lost in the lonely valley?
Human Monkey: When you will learn to drive on highways? Come on, take a chance and do it.
Fear Monkey: Why the hell do you want to drive, what will you learn from driving to Mumbai? Just imagine if you get hit by a bus … you will be bedridden for a month or you might die! Just take a cab.
Human Monkey: Sfurti, just go ahead. Don’t be afraid!
Fear Monkey: A cab will be more comfortable as you will not have to drive. It’s better to save your energy for something important. You can also work on the way.
Finally, the Fear Monkey would successfully convince me that it wasn’t a good idea to drive, and win the argument. And the P-Monkey played its part by urging me to push the activity to a later date. The fears raised by the Fear Monkey actually prevented me from doing something that I could have.
P-Monkey and Fear Monkey win.
Desired result: Drive on the highway.
Actual result: Exactly the opposite.
How many of us have experienced this? There are these voices that constantly keep repeating something and stop us from doing something that is actually important.
For me it was driving. For you it could be something else, like volunteering to do some public speaking or taking a flight or going for a swim. These are activities that some people find difficult. To overcome their fear they have to try and force themselves to take that first step. They have to commit to at least making an attempt. But there is a voice within that keeps telling them that they shouldn’t be taking it up.
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